Are some people really that goofy?

You have to wonder how some people manage to dress themselves

Social media should have a dress code!


All characters appearing in this article are fictitious. Any resemblance to Richard Ashley, real persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental. LOL


There are some notable individuals in almost everyone’s social sphere that you, on a daily basis, just shake your head and laugh because they are so goofy. They are just so loopy that you have to laugh because hitting them with a stick and yelling stop that is fruitless! And probably a waste of a good stick. It is totally mind-numbing! But …. entertaining!

For some unknown reason these individuals are a perpetual annoyance. And after repeated incidents of mindlessness they continue on their self appointed quest to bug the fire out of others. Sadly social media has become a hot bed for such individuals. You know who these people are! Because they have deluded themselves about just how much smarter they are than you. And how much more awesome they are than others. Throw in a sympathetic pile of “friends” and what you end up with, in my humble opinion, is a big bag of online stupid!

Go on with your bad self!

These same people that have social skills that are questionable at best,  when you put them in an online social environment they become self proclaimed geniuses! Despite evidence to the contrary, such as things like education and life history, they still come at you like they are all that! They are so “special” with their incredibly awesome insights into specific personal affairs that they have to berate you with all of the “evidence” as to why they are incredibly right. Leading the unknowing reader to believe they have somehow along the way acquired a Masters Degree in Psychology, along with an impressive legal background as they put in print/post these evidences. Excellent! Just frickin incredible! And how incredibly wrong they are! Many of us know better!

When you read these personal “insights”, also known as posts in some media, and unfortunately that is just about every damn day, you have to read through these rambling posts in utter awe. Wait! Let me rephrase that ….. amazement! And in most cases, at least in my experience, it under most circumstances culminates in “WTF was that!” moment. They are that incredible!

Zip it up before you step on it

Because they are on the web and because they are on social media and because they are awesomely right these individuals get the equivalence of an invincibility complex.Unfortunately because they are so awesomely incredible and they have documented in writing for everyone about it in all the gory details about the circumstances of the moment, they forget to “zip up their pants” so to speak. They have put all this so called “evidence” out there and pointed it at their web “Friend” and had all of their other “Friends” electronically pat them on the back for being so awesome, that they kind of become ignorant of the fact that this is an open forum that allows other non-“Friends” to view it. This is where they “step all over it with golf shoes” as I put it.

Not only that, they kinda neglected to take into account that someone just might fact-check their writings document it and respond with an opposing “insight” to these same events. In addition these “insights” are now in digital memory and engrained on the web forever, if found to be somehow, say, wrong, misleading or harmful, there may be some unfortunate repercussions for the awesomely smart individual! Damn! They didn’t see that coming!

While not new information on how to behave on the web I am presenting this as a friendly version of a Public Service Announcement. For demonstration sake I am going to pick ….Ummm…. Child Custody as the subject for the following examples. And as I said already it is strictly for educational purposes. Yeah! Whatever!

Top Ten Ways Social Media Use Can Impact Your Custody or Support Case
In recent years it has become common practice in family law cases to use social networking sites as tools to gain evidence in divorce, child custody, and child support cases.  Facebook and Twitter are amongst the top social media sites used by individuals to express their daily thoughts and to vent to the cyber-world about their pet peeves and life’s’ injustices.  Then there are other sites like LinkedIn and other business networking sites where people promote themselves professionally.  Many people who are in the process of a divorce, child custody and/or support case thoughtlessly put their life out there on the Internet through Facebook, MySpace, Instagram, Twitter and other forms of blogging and social networking.  Although social media can be entertaining, informative, and innocent if used properly, these sites can be detrimental to your case if used irresponsibly.

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In addition this is a nice guideline as to how this “awesomeness” is a legal windfall to the other party.

Is Facebook A Friend Or Foe In Divorce and Child Custody Battles?

When someone’s character is on trial before the court, a guardian ad litem, a child custody evaluator, etc., any form of public information can be taken into account.In divorce and child custody battles, parties’ tempers are flared and mud slinging is expected. This is a “he said-she said” war of who is the worst person, who has done the worst things and who deserves more or less with the children because of it.

In the mud slinging phase, parties will get any information possible to show that you are undeserving of a fair and reasonable result.  And the information posted on social networking websites, including Facebook, will be the first evidence given to the judge to back up the claims.

While Facebook can be a formidable foe in your divorce, there are four reasons social networking websites can also be your friend:

1. You can use the information on social media websites against the opposing party.

2.  Social networking websites can be used as your own personal private detective.  Most people have no limits to what they will expose or share on these public sites.

3.  Information acquired from Facebook can be used to evaluate the opposing party’s maturity and their ability to parent. The screening of Facebook profiles is a common practice in many aspects of life. For example, social networking websites are used all the time by employers to recruit and hire people for jobs. Making the wrong comment on a personal profile can be enough for an employer to disqualify an application. In similar fashion, the court can use this information to determine the quality of character and parental fitness.

4.  The most common way Facebook and other social networking sites can be used against the other party in court is when they use these sites to deface, demean and speak poorly of someone. This is a very common occurrence and one’s case can benefit if this information is carefully presented to the court.

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With all of this being said, these same fantastically special individuals continue to spew interesting writings on the social media that are nothing but drivel and crapola. And they apparently have no regard for the possible repercussions of their now documented utterings being fact checked, rebutted and corrected. And maybe, just maybe, slapped on them in some sort of legal action. This does not play well into their I am awesome narrative. But this doesn’t seem to affect them.

In conclusion all I can say at this point is you [Richard Ashley] go on with your bad self! Keep up the good work! You are AWESOME! Keep writing! The web is taking notes. Ain’t the web great!?

Social Media Legal Refresher 101

For those of you that didn’t get the memo

Facebook, Twitter and the law

businessman in suit with hands in handcuffsAs the times get better and people start taking Facebook and other social media for granted people tend to get arrogant and mouthy because they forget that the media is exactly that, the media. Because of the digital revolution there is a new legal arena evolving. It’s main point is that the author is ultimately responsible for their content. It now encompasses  much of the social media. And because of it’s impact it is being allowed to be used in the prosecution of everyday processes such as divorces, child custody and fraud. And people that want to voice their opinions … feel free to do so. If you choose to make remarks that could possibly be taken as, say, slander or direct assaults, or even threats, Have at it. But there is a cost involved. 100% accountability by the author. This isn’t my rule the US courts have passed this down. I’m just passing on the news just in case you missed it.  Kind of like my version of a Public Service Announcement! Anyone with any web savvy can pull up a laundry list the events recently that have involved the repercussions of an unfortunate Tweet or Facebook post.

“Our society’s inclination to tweet, post and share everything about our personal lives can be fun – but it can also lead to legal trouble,” said Larry Bodine, Esq., editor-in-chief of Lawyers.com. “Our survey shows that most people are unaware that their online ‘digital trail’ can and will be used against them in legal situations, despite privacy settings or deleted posts.” Read Article here

And the criminal investigations are carried out at all levels of law enforcement. What this means is that if you chose to say something or post something, words, pictures, status, whatever, be aware that you are solely responsible for the content of that post.

More than 70 percent of law enforcement agencies across the U.S. use social media as an investigative tool, and the trend is growing. In a recent survey, officers reported using Facebook, Youtube, Twitter and other social networks to identify suspects, find out who their friends are and monitor their activities. Plenty of criminals make the job even easier by broadcasting their misdeeds online. If you’ve broken the law and are tempted to brag about it online, make sure you know who your “friends” are. The cops could be watching. See Infographic here

And if you think deleting it is a defense… well…. don’t count on it! Apparently you haven’t been watching enough of the evening news to grasp the fact that it ALL recoverable. Remember Mr. Kilpatrick??

Take a look at this article What you post can be used against you in court HERE

And speaking of child custody, we really weren’t but iI thought I would throw it out there for your consumption, you may want to read up on this one

Child Custody-Family Court and Social Media
In the past few years, it has become much more common for social media sites such as Facebook, Twitter, Myspace and blogs to be used in family law cases.  Social media evidence is now routinely used in divorce cases, alimony reduction hearings, child support hearings, and child custody dispute hearings.  Evidence obtained from social media sites have shown to be crucial to a case. Read More here

And now for my special note :To those of you on Facebook and Twitter that think you in some way smarter than everyone else or believe that you can hide behind the veil of the net and social media may want to rethink what it is you are posting. The ruling is that YOU are 100% responsible for any and all media that you post. And do not be aghast when it comes back at you as something like a court order or warrant.

The old sayings go something like this – “Don’t let your mouth write checks that your a$$ can’t cash” or ” Don’t let your alligator mouth overload your hummingbird a$$”

This is not rocket science but it is the new technology! Ain’t it kool!?

Why do we, as Americans. put up with this crap!?

I don’t know about you but this is getting out of hand!

And really pissing me off!

The news lately has been filled with glowing examples of how out of control the youth in America are! And the annoying arrogance of the parents who portray their stupid children as somehow being  not responsible. While I normally have some faith in the “future of America”, as of late it is becoming more and more obvious that the family structure and moral values that I was taught as a child are not being passed on now. The parents of America are severely lacking in this department. For the most part.

Bikers pull over, beat SUV driver in NYC after clash

The latest episode is from New York on October 1 with the attack on a man, his wife and child by a group of 20 to 30 bikers. There are a couple of facets in this incident that are annoying to me. I just pisses me off!

First is the arrogant use of a helmet-cam to document this. The modern social media is used by a participant of this “gang” to document the whole horrific event. And then it is passed on to other social media platforms to brag about the attack. In the video it is clear that the SUV runs over someone/something attempting to get away. Kind of obvious, but here is where it is twisted. Twisted but openly predictable.

Second is this part which always seems to popup immediately. It is reported that the young man that was supposedly run over and seriously injured is being being touted by his mother as, … wait for it!!! A victim! Say what?! It really annoys me that the pervasive attitude is “It’s not my fault! My child is innocent!”. I guess that it is a parents duty to take that stance but with that being said, he was a participant in this incident voluntarily despite what happened to his as a result of his fellow bikes. But how about some responsibility here. How about dropping the “But he is a good boy” boast! He was part of this whole scenario from the beginning. Wrong place at the wrong time. Bad call. Bad outcome.

Third and Just as annoying is the fact that only two of the “suspects” are in custody. Suspects?! Only one had the kahonies to step forward and “man up”! A 42 year old. The rest are blatantly cowards and may or may not come forward. If they do I am sure they are going to hide behind mom and dads lawyer. Just a guess here. They, the NYC police , are still “investigating”.  When they call them out we will see what kind of hoopla ensues.

Another shining example of this American phenomenon of “It’s not their fault!” along with parental arrogance and denial is this event. And as a personal note former NFL offensive lineman Brian Holloway is a class act! He handled it excellently! I can’t say the same for the asshat participants and their parents!

Ex-NFL player’s NY home trashed by partying teens

First off is that once again social media, Twitter,  was used to organize the event at the unoccupied home. And in the normal course of events it was documented on Twitter by the willing and “mentally challenged” participants. Once again with the arrogance, along with a dash of stupidity , to unwittingly document their participation in the illegal and destructive “party”. It is reported to have had anywhere from 200 to 400 participants that did an estimated $20K in damage.

Second Remember what I said about immediate and arrogant response by parents? Well, it happened here!

When Brian Holloway put up a webpage , Help Me Save 300, and the corresponding Facebook , Twitter and YouTube segments, he made it very clear that all he wanted to do was get the participants to fess up and participate in the restoration of the property that they had trashed. As a life lesson learned.  Warfare on their own turf! How cool is that?  Well, what it got was parental indignation, threats of lawsuits and even death threats for the effort!  While there have been some arrests, and charges, 6 I believe, and on the good side a couple of them actually turned themselves in. Bravo! But they still got charged while the army of other asshats hide out at their parents house.  Only one brave sole showed up to help in the restoration and cleanup!

Parents were “outraged” because he had the audacity to put their child’s picture out on the web and finger them with their own social pics! Some even shouted that because of this their child may be in some way harmed in getting into college. Well, Boo Hoo!  Sucks to be you and your child. Maybe your child made a very bad decision and it was because of your lack of guidance? Maybe? Ya think?!

I already made my rant in the case of the killing of Chris Lane in Oklahoma by three gangster wannabe “bored” asshats.  If you didn’t read it check it out here. All three elements are evident in that incident too.

Enough of this rant. You get the point! Unfortunately I don’t have a good solution. Maybe jail time for the perpetrators and maybe even a fine or jail time for the parents who try to obstruct the prosecution of their kids! Yeah! That’s it!  Wanna be apart of this? Everybody goes!

Facebook and getting old

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facebook (Photo credit: sitmonkeysupreme)

Damn! It’s cool be be old!

Been there, Done that , Got the T-shirt! But with that all said, Facebook, and the rest of the social media for that matter, play a  still larger feature in the world as we know it. And for the younger generation [ I love using that now!] it has become an integral part of their culture. And here I am blogging about it! One of the latest phenomenon has been the right of potential employers to check out your social site traffic. While I am not a proponent of this, it is a fact that anything you post on the internet and the social media is public, unless otherwise set. So with common sense set aside, if you are going to put stuff on the net , stand by, anyone… including potential employers can see it. Even if you don’t let him/her see your account, if you are out there they will find you. And this includes ex’s and previous partners.

Getting a friend request on Facebook is usually exciting, but there is one notable exception. When that request comes from a boss or manager, a majority of workers say they are uncomfortable in accepting it.

Workers have good reason to have those feelings. That’s because nearly 1 in 3 employees say they know of a person who has been reprimanded for inappropriate postings on Facebook, research by Fierce Inc., found. That research also found that 40 percent of employees engage in inappropriate communications with co-workers on Facebook, including everything from gossiping to flirting.

See the full article here

So you might want to temper what you post on the web before you do it. Me!? I really don’t care. I am old enough that what I speak is my mind. And none of these things that I comment or write about are great mysteries. But for my younger friends … read and heed! Don’t say i didn’t warn you and I don’t beliueve that what I say on the web has a whole lot of impact . But I am adding my voice to the others out there and maybe it will make some sense to someone.